How I Manifested My Soulmate (And How You Can Too)

When COVID-19 lockdown began, I found myself at a crossroads. I’d just ended another relationship, and once again, it was with someone who couldn’t meet me emotionally. Instead of staying in the same pattern, I decided it was time to make a real change. Lockdown gave me time to take a closer look at myself, my choices, and what I really wanted in a relationship. That period ended up being pivotal—I went on to meet my soulmate in a way I never expected.

This isn’t just my story, though; it’s also a guide. If you’re ready to manifest lasting love, here’s what worked for me and how you can apply these steps to find your own soulmate.

Step 1: Commit to Self-Discovery and Inner Healing

Being alone during lockdown meant I couldn’t escape my own thoughts, patterns, and beliefs. Instead of running from them, I dove in. I turned to Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), a tool for tapping on specific points to release emotional tension and uncover limiting beliefs. The process helped me recognize certain ideas I’d been holding onto for years—ideas like “I don’t deserve love” or “I’m afaid to commit to someone who might hurt me”. These beliefs were getting in the way, so I worked to let them go.

After some consistent effort, I felt lighter. I could feel myself moving toward a place of acceptance and clarity about what I wanted in love, unburdened by old wounds.

Try it for yourself:
Take some time each day to either meditate, tap through your emotions with EFT, or simply journal. Write down what you feel about relationships and love. Look for beliefs that hold you back, like ideas of unworthiness or fear of disappointment. Begin a practice that helps you gradually release these.

Step 2: Get Clear on What You Want (And What You Don’t Want)

With more clarity about myself, I began to think through what I actually wanted in a partner. This time, I went deeper than a “type” or a list of hobbies. I wanted someone who shared my values—someone who was emotionally available, open, and curious about life.

To stay focused, I used the Law of Attraction focus wheel to create a list of non-negotiables. I listed values like kindness, integrity, humor, good family values and a genuine desire for growth. This clarity helped me set a clear intention without compromise. Knowing what I wanted wasn’t about narrowing my options but about aligning with someone I’d genuinely connect with.

Try it for yourself:
Make a list of qualities that truly matter to you. Go beyond physical traits or lifestyle preferences, and get into values, character, and compatibility. Keep it somewhere you can review it regularly—it helps to keep your focus on what really matters.

 Step 3: Visualize the Kind of Relationship You Want

Once I had a clear picture of what I was looking for, I started using visualization. I’d spend a few minutes each day imagining what a fulfilling relationship would feel like, not just what it would look like. I pictured everyday scenarios—conversations, laughter, a real partnership. I didn’t just daydream; I actively tried to feel the emotions of being in that relationship, like security, joy, and calm.

Try it for yourself:
Each day, take a few minutes to close your eyes and imagine yourself in a happy, healthy relationship. Focus on the small moments and the emotions you’d feel if you were with someone truly compatible. The goal isn’t fantasy—it’s about aligning with what you want on an emotional level.

Step 4: Let Go of Control Over the “How” and “When”

One of the most difficult lessons for me was learning to let go of the need to control everything. In the past, I’d tried to force connections or felt a sense of urgency to find someone. But I knew that this time, I had to let go of the timeline and trust that things would happen when they were supposed to.

Releasing control wasn’t instant—it took practice. But I found that by staying focused on building a full, meaningful life for myself, I was less anxious about the timing. In other words, I found peace with where I was, which kept me from obsessing over what I couldn’t control.

Try it for yourself:
Whenever you feel anxious about the timing or the “how,” remind yourself that it’s not something you can control. Focus instead on creating a life that feels fulfilling right now. The calmer you are in your life, the more open you’ll be to someone new.

 Step 5: Take Intentional Action

Once I felt more aligned, I decided to put myself out there in a way that felt natural. I joined a dating website but with a very clear intention. This time, I wasn’t looking for validation or just to “see what’s out there.” I knew what I was looking for, and I trusted that the right connection would happen if I stayed open.

Within a week, I connected with someone who ticked so many of my boxes. He was kind, funny, and valued growth as much as I did. We both had lists of what we wanted in a partner, and we both found those qualities in each other. There was an ease in our conversations and a sense of shared purpose that felt grounded and real.

Try it for yourself:
Put yourself out there in a way that feels comfortable to you. This might be online dating, joining a social group, or reaching out to new people. Stay open and intentional about your interactions, trusting that the right connection will come naturally if you’re clear about what you want.

Step 6: Recognize the Small Signs Along the Way

When I met my partner, there were plenty of small signs that we were aligned. The conversations flowed naturally; we shared similar goals and values. Looking back, it was clear that my effort to stay clear and open had brought us together.

In life, we often overlook these small signs that we’re on the right path. But if you’re paying attention, you’ll often find that little things—like meeting someone with shared values or a genuine connection—are signs that you’re getting closer to what you want.

Try it for yourself:
Notice the small things that happen along the way. Did a conversation feel more genuine than usual? Did you meet someone who shares a few of your values? Acknowledge these as signs that you’re getting closer to your goal.

Step 7: Stay Grounded and Patient

Meeting my partner wasn’t the end of my journey—it was just the beginning of a new chapter. I kept up my own self-care practices, worked on my own goals, and didn’t put all my energy into just one area of my life. This relationship taught me the value of patience and the importance of staying true to myself while being open to someone else.

The right relationship doesn’t consume your whole life. Instead, it adds depth to what’s already there. For me, patience meant staying focused on my own path and allowing the relationship to develop naturally.

Try it for yourself:
Stay grounded in your own life even after you meet someone who feels special. This journey is as much about your own growth as it is about finding love. Keep your friendships, hobbies, and goals alive, and let the relationship grow organically.

Final Thoughts: Building a Path to Authentic Love

Finding love during lockdown wasn’t a result of luck—it was a mix of clear intentions, self-reflection, and a willingness to put myself out there. Manifesting isn’t about magic; it’s about understanding what matters to you and staying open to it. I’ve learned that when you know what you want and stay true to yourself, you’re more likely to find someone who feels like the right fit.

If you’re ready to start your own journey, remember that it begins with you. Focus on building a fulfilling life, get clear on what matters, and be open to where that journey might take you. Love isn’t about perfection; it’s about finding someone who aligns with your path and building something real together.

Curious about how to start? Try the steps I shared, and if you’d like more guidance—especially on using EFT to clear old beliefs—feel free to comment below or reach out directly. I’d love to help you on your journey toward the love you deserve!