Have you ever had a thought like, “I can’t do that, I’m not qualified enough,” or “If I say no, they’ll be upset with me”? If so—you’re not alone. We all carry invisible scripts in our minds. Some of them push us forward. But many quietly hold us back. These scripts are called beliefs—and the…
So, you are finally ready to give up people pleasing. What’s next? When you stop people pleasing, everything changes. It’s like stepping off a treadmill you didn’t realize you were on. At first, it might feel strange. You might even feel guilty for saying no or putting your own needs first. I know because I’ve…
Growing up in Ireland, I was raised on two things: potatoes and cynicism. The idea of “new year affirmations” was about as appealing to me as eating a raw spud. Affirmations, I thought, were airy-fairy nonsense for people who didn’t live in the real world. They seemed like wishful thinking at best. Then I met…
As the song says, “It’s the most wonderful time of the year!” Or is it? For many of us, the holiday season feels more like a marathon than a celebration. We’re surrounded by images of happy families, perfect gifts, and sparkling homes. Social media makes it seem like everyone else has it all figured out….
I love a good affirmation. I use them daily to stay focused and positive. But here’s the thing—affirmations don’t work for everyone. Why not? The problem usually isn’t the affirmation itself. It’s how people use them. To make affirmations work, you need the right approach. When done correctly, they can transform your mindset, improve your…
Fear and self-doubt can hold us back. They keep us from trying new things or pursuing what truly matters. But here’s the good news: you can overcome them. I’ve faced my own fears too. For years, I was terrified of water and heights. I avoided swimming and anything involving high places. Then, I decided to…
Fear is a part of life. Sometimes, it protects us. Other times, it holds us back. Knowing the difference can change everything. That’s why learning how to identify your fears is so important. It’s the first step toward understanding them and taking back control. Fear doesn’t always show up loudly. It can whisper doubts, stall…
My brother is building a house. It’s going to be beautiful—if he ever finishes it. You see, my brother is a perfectionist. He insists on completing every task himself. In fact, he’s taken the term “self-build” to dizzying new heights. And honestly? That’s fine. It’s his passion project, and he’s in no rush. He’s enjoying…
I remember sitting in the hallway, nervously waiting for a job interview. My hands were clammy, and my mind was racing. As I glanced around, my eyes landed on the walls. They were covered in framed pictures of inspiring quotes. “Eugh,” I thought. “How cheesy.” I immediately judged the company. This isn’t the kind of…
We all have those quiet little voices in our heads, don’t we? They tell us what we can and can’t do, who we are, and what we deserve—or don’t. These voices are called self-limiting beliefs. They impact our careers, relationships, and self-worth—often without us realizing it. Sometimes, these beliefs feel like facts. They shape how…
